The thief that robs you of your peace of mind
Moving out is not an option
Your brain is your home; you live in it 24 hours per day. When you suffer with ongoing anxiety, you may wish that you could move out – if only that were an option!
As a generation, we have a life expectancy greater than any other generation that has gone before us. We have greater wealth and far higher standards of luxury and living than any other generation. We can travel further in one year than most people could previously experience in a lifetime. We have amazing opportunities in life, but worry and anxiety robs us of our life, it is a thief – robbing you of your life, day by day.
Emotion: The body’s reaction to your mind
Nervousness and concern are not usually a problem. Everyone gets nervous at times, and everyone can be concerned about something, or someone. What they both share is that they are generally rational, they are reasoned and with logic. Worry and anxiety are very different though.
Worry lacks logic and tends to accumulate into a vicious circle until it is all-consuming. This, eventually, usually leads to anxiety, which is a state of extreme worry and apprehension; way beyond nervousness and concern. Anxiety sends shockwaves of acute emotion and distress cursing through mind and body. The common characteristic of anxiety is that you are on a regular, or constant alert and find it difficult, or almost impossible, to relax and ‘switch off’.
How does it develop?
It is common to develop anxiety following a series of stressful life events. In particular, if we experience many different pressures all at once or over a long length of time the mind goes into a high alert state, always on the lookout for danger, leaving us unable to rest – physically and mentally – and recover from the pent-up levels of stress on the body and mind.
But for many there seems to be no logical reason for the high anxiety state. Where this is the case it is usually because of an array of thinking style’s that create or prolong anxiety. This constant negative self-talk, that the sufferer is often completely unaware of, can be both the cause of anxiety and also the result of anxiety, putting the sufferer in a never ending anxiety feedback loop.
Why does it not go away?
Anxious people sometimes believe that worrying has a protective quality, that being on the ‘look-out’ for danger can help them to spot it coming and avoid it. Being constantly on the ‘look-out’ for danger in this way they soon begin seeing potential danger in almost everything, which of course, makes them feel anxious. They may also believe that by considering all that could go wrong; they will be better prepared to cope when it does. As a result, so much time is spent worrying about things that never come true. People can then become worried about all the worrying that they are doing, fretting that they are doing harm and damage to themselves, or that they will go mad, thus, creating another vicious cycle of anxiety.
As the anxiety builds, people will often change their behaviour because of how they feel; for example they might avoid going out, or put off completing an assignment, or stop seeing friends etc. Unfortunately, these behavioural changes and avoidance strategies then create yet another anxiety loop.
So, we can see that our thoughts, feelings, behaviours and physical symptoms all interact and combine to keep our anxiety continually revolving within the never ending anxiety loop. And it is this loop that must be broken.
Breaking the loop … Integratively
I work with anxiety clients every working day, and use an integrative mix of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which will help to reduce anxiety by enabling you to recognise the most common thinking styles that keep the anxiety loop spinning.
With this knowledge, you can then start to re-evaluate your thoughts, and begin to change your behaviours. We will also utilise deep relaxation mind and body Hypnotherapy to begin calming the pent up levels of stress within your system. You will be taught Mindfullness Techniques, aiding you in breaking the unhealthy mind patterns. We may also use Counselling to examine any on-going life issues – to look at what can be changed and what cannot be changed. To help you to accept the things that cannot be changed and consider short, medium and long-term action plans to help you tackle those things that can be changed.
I am a full-time psychotherapist, hypnotherapist and counsellor who has been providing hypnotherapy, hypnosis, psychotherapy, CBT and counselling in Horsham and Crawley for over a decade